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THE IMPOSTOR SYNDROME: BEHAVIORS ASSOCIATED – (CHAPTER 02)

***Continued from Chapter 01 (Covered previously: Meaning, Characterestics, Apparance and Manifestation) Link to Chapter -01 Root Causes — And Potential Solutions  Regardless of how or why people may feel like an impostor occasionally, this syndrome is all about the stories that we tell ourselves . We step out with an idea, then when someone says “no,” we retreat and the cycle repeats. The stories may not be true anymore, but they become a habit.  It may happen in school and then in meetings at work. Our ideas get shut down as someone says, “I’ve been here 11 years and that won’t work.” We develop complex coping mechanisms around these stories and deepen the groove in our brain of the thoughts and behaviours, making it very difficult to break the mental connections we’ve made – or to step into our brilliance, whatever it may be. Measuring Impostor Syndrome The first scale designated to measure characteristics of impostor syndrome phenomenon came in 1985, called the Clance impos

THE IMPOSTOR SYNDROME: BEHAVIORS ASSOCIATED – (CHAPTER 01)

What Is Impostor Syndrome? Impostor syndrome (also known as impostor phenomenon, impostor-ism, fraud syndrome or the impostor experience) is a psychological pattern in which an individual doubts their skills, talents, or accomplishments and has a persistent internalized fear of being exposed as a "fraud". Impostor syndrome refers to an internal experience of believing that we are not as competent as others perceive us to be . While this definition is usually narrowly applied to intelligence and achievement, it has links to perfectionism and the social context . To put it simply, impostor syndrome is the experience of feeling like a phony —we feel as though at any moment we are going to be found out as a fraud—like we do not belong where we are, and we only got there through dumb luck. It can affect anyone no matter their social status, work background, skill level, or degree of expertise. Impostor syndrome is different from the standard “fake it until you make it” in th

LESSONS IN LEADERSHIP BEHAVIOUR FROM BOXING – SECOND ROUND (PART 02)

***Continued  from Part 01 Link to Part 01 ↘ Innovation: Brains Over Brawn Like any boxing match, the business landscape can be extremely unpredictable, requiring quick and effective reflexes that do not jeopardize the overall game plan. One minute, you are landing clients left and right; the next, you are up against a narrowing profit margin. The best executives are those who can swiftly adapt to harsh or changing conditions and pivot to creative solutions that are perfectly in line with management practices, brand messaging and core customer expectations. Like the most-revered boxers in history, ultimate respect, loyalty, and praise go to those leaders that can dodge and innovate under pressure , without abandoning familiarity or authenticity of style. ↘ Technique trumps brute strength. Boxing is all about technique. After all, they don’t call it the sweet science for nothing. The same is true in leadership. If we only rely on position and power to get things done, our ab

EFFECTIVE AND MEANINGFUL APOLOGY: BEHAVIOURS ASSOCIATED

Apologizing to those we have hurt or harmed isn’t always an easy task. There can be various obstacles in our way of doing what is right. Some are: A)   A matter of pride: . . .     To apologize is to set aside our pride long enough to admit our imperfections. For some people, this feels far too vulnerable, too dangerous . It means they have to admit they are flawed and fallible, something they refuse to do. And apologizing also overrides our tendency to make excuses or blame others . This acceptance of responsibility for our own actions is so out of character for some that it is nearly impossible.   B) A sign of weakness: . . .   To many, apologizing reflects weakness. These people have a tendency to need to be right and to always be seen as strong and powerful. But the truth is, apologizing for the harm you caused and taking responsibility for your mistakes can actually be seen as a sign of strength. For example, General Mark Milley recently apologized for appearing in a photo-

FEAR OF MISSING OUT (FOMO)

What Is FOMO? This is a social  anxiety stemmed from the belief that others might be having fun while the person experiencing the anxiety is not present. It is characterized by a desire to stay continually connected with what others are doing.   FOMO is also defined as a fear of regret, which may lead to concerns that one might miss an opportunity for  social interaction , a novel experience or a profitable investment.  It is the fear that deciding not to participate is the wrong choice. Social networking  creates many opportunities for FOMO. While it provides opportunities for social engagement, it offers an endless stream of activities in which any given person is not involved. Psychological dependence on social networks can result in anxiety and can lead to FOMO or even  pathological Internet use . FOMO could result from not knowing about a conversation, missing a TV show, not attending a wedding or party, or hearing that others have discovered a new restaurant. The fear of