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EXPLORING HUMAN BEHAVIOR THROUGH SCUBA DIVING: LESSONS AND INSIGHTS - (CHAPTER 01)

Scuba Diving is one of those activities that changes us in many ways. Not just through the training, but also by what we see and experience underwater, has this lasting effect on how we experience the world above. A lot of sports and hobbies can reinforce our character and teach us valuable life lessons. Here are some ways in which we think,  Scuba Diving  has changed our lives. It might be a stretch, but some of those lessons apply to management and business as well. 01) -> Equalize Your Airspaces During descent, the pressure changes, increasing with the weight of the water, pushing on places in our body with airspaces that are unaccustomed to it. The first things to complain are the ears. We can fix this discomfort, equalizing the pressure to match the change around by pinching our nose and lightly blowing . This adds air into the cavities and canals running through our head and the discomfort dissipates. Every dive is different . Sometimes the ears complain and some...

SELF-DIFFERENTIATION: THE KEY TO EMOTIONAL BALANCE AND STRONGER RELATIONSHIPS

Balancing authenticity with relational harmony is a common challenge. Self-differentiation, a core concept in Bowen Theory, helps individuals stay true to themselves while remaining connected to others, fostering clarity, calm, and confidence. Self-differentiation is a term we do not often hear in everyday conversation, but it is a powerful and essential process for living—and relating—well. It shows up when someone speaks their mind with calm conviction, even when others may disapprove . It is absent when a person defines themselves only in opposition to their parents or colleagues, constantly reacting rather than choosing. It’s also missing when someone silences their own thoughts and emotions out of fear—fear of rejection, shame, or upsetting others. Story: Bhishma’s Vow: A Legacy of Duty and Self-Mastery But the defining feature of that moment wasn’t just sacrifice— it was clarity . Bhishma was not swayed by emotion alone or by intellectual pride. He knew what he valued : duty, h...

THE REFLECTIVE MIND: UNDERSTANDING THE MECHANICS OF SELF-REFLECTION

  Being present with oneself, in the moment, being mindful, mentalizing, reflective function— all of these constructs point toward a crucial recognition of one’s own experience that takes place repeatedly on short time scales , as much as it is an overarching way of seeing that spans a lifetime. Practicing curiosity fosters open-mindedness. There is a firm but gentle way to be intently aware, where one almost sees oneself as a beloved stranger. Being a stranger to oneself can represent alienation and nihilism, but it can also be the beginning of a love affair as we meet ourselves anew. Closeness to oneself, however, can pose a variety of real and imagined threats. It is important to respect our own boundaries, self-consent to all major decisions, and equip ourselves well. Self-Absorption vs. Self-Reflection In the journey of self-discovery and personal growth, two seemingly similar yet fundamentally different concepts often arise: self-absorption and self-reflection. W...

ACTIVE AND CONSTRUCTIVE RESPONDING: COMMUNICATI

The feedback we receive can sometimes feel like nonsense. For Example, an employee in an organisation once stated:   “ This company doesn’t care about parents. ” The employee then proceeded to gripe about the lack of maternity and paternity benefits. Admittedly, the CEO agreed that the company’s maternity and paternity leave policies could be improved… But she was livid about the broad accusation that “ this company doesn’t care about parents. ” What an unfair generalization . The CEO was conflicted about how to react to the feedback: 1)       She didn’t want to come off as being defensive to her employee. 2)       But she also didn’t want sweeping, inflammatory remarks to be seen as well-received by the employee. How was she supposed to take this feedback? It felt like nonsense. Nonsense feedback usually comes in one of three forms… Given that how we receive feedback as a leader sets the tone of openness and honesty in t...