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THE IMPOSTOR SYNDROME: BEHAVIORS ASSOCIATED – (CHAPTER 02)

***Continued from Chapter 01 (Covered previously: Meaning, Characterestics, Apparance and Manifestation) Link to Chapter -01 Root Causes — And Potential Solutions  Regardless of how or why people may feel like an impostor occasionally, this syndrome is all about the stories that we tell ourselves . We step out with an idea, then when someone says “no,” we retreat and the cycle repeats. The stories may not be true anymore, but they become a habit.  It may happen in school and then in meetings at work. Our ideas get shut down as someone says, “I’ve been here 11 years and that won’t work.” We develop complex coping mechanisms around these stories and deepen the groove in our brain of the thoughts and behaviours, making it very difficult to break the mental connections we’ve made – or to step into our brilliance, whatever it may be. Measuring Impostor Syndrome The first scale designated to measure characteristics of impostor syndrome phenomenon came in 1985, called the Clance impos

THE IMPOSTOR SYNDROME: BEHAVIORS ASSOCIATED – (CHAPTER 01)

What Is Impostor Syndrome? Impostor syndrome (also known as impostor phenomenon, impostor-ism, fraud syndrome or the impostor experience) is a psychological pattern in which an individual doubts their skills, talents, or accomplishments and has a persistent internalized fear of being exposed as a "fraud". Impostor syndrome refers to an internal experience of believing that we are not as competent as others perceive us to be . While this definition is usually narrowly applied to intelligence and achievement, it has links to perfectionism and the social context . To put it simply, impostor syndrome is the experience of feeling like a phony —we feel as though at any moment we are going to be found out as a fraud—like we do not belong where we are, and we only got there through dumb luck. It can affect anyone no matter their social status, work background, skill level, or degree of expertise. Impostor syndrome is different from the standard “fake it until you make it” in th

DEVELOPING CONSISTENCY: BEHAVIOURS INVOLVED

  Every single one of us has the potential to be so much more than we are, and throughout our lives, we stumble upon so many amazing ideas and take great initiatives for our growth and well-being, and we also go to great lengths to get started and get things going. So many great ideas and initiatives just get buried in the ground forever. So many people who have the potential to achieve so much never make it, only because of the  lack of consistency . We often have so many positive intentions and thoughts, and we often know what we “should” do to increase the quality of our lives. If only we could consistently follow some of our life’s callings, our lives might transform beyond our imagination. This can also lead to:- 1)       Self Doubt. Doubting our own ability to be consistent and ability to follow through, leading to people’s image of us being inconsistent. 2)       Self Image. This doubting impacts our self-image and self-esteem.  3)       Loss Of Trust. This leads